“ Black men’s feelings of cancellation, their grievance, and their fear of vulnerability must be talked about, but not by black women when it is at the expense of our own “curious rage” If this society ascribes roles to Black men which they are not allowed to fulfill, is it Black women who must bend and alter our lives to compensate, or is it society that needs changing? And why should Black men accept these roles as correct ones, or anything other than a narcotic promise encouraging acceptance of other facts of their own oppression? One tool of the Great-American-Double-Think is to blame the victim for victimization: Black people are said to invite the lynching by not knowing our place; Black women are said to invite rape and abuse by not being submissive enough, or by being to seductive ,or too... “ Happy Birthday